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February: The month of love

Wednesday, February 17th, 2016

Welcome to my February musing….the month of love!!

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”.  Rumi

I used to think that love was something we had to get, acquire, hold on to, search for.  I used to think that love was something we needed to deserve. I used to think that love was something to be learnt and taught.  However, what I have come to believe is that love is something we are.  It is part of our natural essence.  Like the flowers bloom, the trees provide shade, the rain nourishes our lands and the sun shines, I believe we are also meant to experience  love.  When we tap into this truth of ourselves there comes a natural desire, to want to communicate better, create loving experiences, foster loving and connected relationships.

So what prevents us from living fully into and expressing this part of ourselves/? What stops us from  showing up, from forgiving, from staying present, resisting the urge to reject, attack or retreat or withdraw our love.

Well if you are at least a little bit interested in the answer to these questions, I invite you this month to meditate or self-enquire on the topic of love.

Find a quiet space and breathe into your heart centre with some in and out breaths.   Gently ask some questions,for example: .What is love to you?  How do you love?  What might have you learnt about love along the way that may not feel true for you now?  When does your heart open and when does it shut down?  If there are moments that you wish to run or hide from love what does that feel like in the body.  Remember to be gentle with yourself.  This is a practice that can take a moment or much time to evolve.  Make it your own.  Can you feel into the wisdom of Rumi’ message and embrace even one little block to love?

What contributes to your sense of aliveness?

Thursday, January 28th, 2016

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

– Howard Thurman

Did anyone ask you whether you made any new year’s resolutions this year? Did you start the new year with increased vigor and commitment to complete some projects be it personal or professional. All these are great and are a necessary part of a life well lived. However, when we only focus on “to do” lists we sometimes forget that it is important to consider how we are feeling or being as we engage in our everyday activities.For example, if having a sense of aliveness or joy in our lives is important then, activities that might contribute to that feeling might be important to engage in, not only the things we have to do or need to do to keep ourselves and our families afloat.I have noticed in my own life that the more I prioritise my health, happiness and sense of being fully alive, the easier all my projects get done. Even when I was in graduate school with a pile of papers to write and classes to attend, I found that when I prioritised a morning swim everything I had to achieve felt more fun, lighter and got accomplished much faster than if I had told myself “I don’t have time” and engaged in a more rigid and punishing road.

Exploring what contributes to our aliveness might seem like a selfish endeavour. However it is far from the truth. As Carlos Castaneda once stated, tt takes the same amount of work to consider what makes us miserable as it does to explore the path that makes us happier…. ultimately it is our choice as to which one we might want to tune into.

One word of caution. You might be tempted to put “aliveness” on your to do list and that can work in some cases I can feel very alive when I am working on a project that I love. However, it might equally show up as wanting to rest more, notice the sunsets, or appreciate the dimples that emerge as your loved ones smile that have more to do with allowing rather than doing. Feeling alive can be different for everyone and can change at different times of our lives.

For 2016, I invite you to “ask what makes you come alive and go for it”. As always your comments and questions are so very welcome.

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