Welcome to summer!

Do you ever feel like you are not enough?  That somehow you should be more, have more, be different than you are?  This seems to be the malaise of our times.  Many people who come to see me feel like there is something wrong with them, or somehow not good enough or undeserving.  These beliefs often arise from our thinking minds which have had a habit of holding on to such thoughts and then repeating them over and over again e.g. I am not worthy, I am not good enough etc.  Imagine if this was your mantra everyday what would you end up believing?  Beliefs, however, are different from truth.  The truth is that we are all good enough, we are worthy and deserving of love just because we exist.  A tree does not question whether it is worthy of the rain watering it or the sun shining its light.  It receives without question.  Many of us have an idea of love that is conditional.  I will love you when …..(fill in the blanks).  So, therefore, withholding love until such a time that we or the other person meets our expectations.  Unconditional love, the love that is based on the spiritual principle that “everything is love” does not wait for conditions to change in order to offer itself.  It is a love that is not based on judgements or punishing others when they don’t give us what they want.  Above all it is generous and forgiving in nature.  When we give ourselves and others unconditional love we open the floodgates to receiving, to feeling connected and experiencing the love most of us seek.

That doesn’t mean that we necessarily accept the status quo, if we have made a mistake or we feel our lives could benefit from some positive changes. That is about learning and self-growth.  It can mean though that we create these changes from a place of acceptance and love actually easing the path for good to flow.   Beating ourselves up with self-criticism and blame creates a damn in our psyches.  A barrier to both receiving and giving.  Stagnant waters occur where we are damned up.  Remove the damn, replace it with love and  laughter and watch how the rivers of life flow to you with ease and grace.

You are enough!

Have a great month everyone,

Much love,

Vivianne