“You are not a project to be solved.  You are a mystery coming into form”
Licata, M.

Many branches of medicine, neuroscience, psychology are coming to the same conclusions that it is our unprocessed trauma (i.e. blocked energies and emotions) that are underlying many diseases and our mental and emotional health.  This unhealed trauma can easily get in the way of us fully stepping into our lives.  It can also create tension, stress and chronic pain in our bodies as we go about our daily lives.  Thus there are many processes and practices which have arisen over the last decade to help us to work with experiences that may feel traumatic.

One of the common misunderstandings in our conversations about trauma is that it is something to be “fixed”, “controlled” or “gotten rid of”.   However in this mode it seems that we are at war with our lives and ourselves.  While our minds might like the idea that there is something out there that we can use to “get rid” of life’s more painful experiences, true healing is more a working through and an integration process where our more challenging and painful experiences are welcomed and embraced as part of the sumptuous mosaic we call life.  Fully experiencing and welcoming what happened to us can serve to dissolve painful memories freeing up our energies from the past.  This is an important concept for us to embrace and engage with as it fundamentally changes the way we relate to our experiences and those around us.  “Many times it is not what happened to us but how we hold the experience afterwards.” Kipp, M.

Our minds like to judge things as good and bad.  For example, I like this experience, I don’t like this one.  However, life is made up of many different kind of experiences and compartmentalising them in this way negates their worth or value.  If we consider ourselves as a symphony then no one instrument is better than another.  It is when all are played in harmony that beautiful music can be  heard.

So I invite you to welcome all the parts of you.  All the feelings that you might judge as bad or unwanted and welcome them into the circle.  Be present with them and attend to them as you would a precious child.  Holding these feelings and experiences with tenderness and compassion allows us to have a loving relationship with ourselves and our lives.  It is easier to surrender the past when we have made peace with it.  You do not need to be worthy to have a great life, all you need is to be present with it and let something greater do the rest.

Wishing you all a wonderful holiday season!

Much love,

Vivianne