Hello Everyone,

How are you all doing?  Last month I attended the 19^th International Energy Psychology Conference.   While there were many amazing speakers and I learnt a lot during this 3-day conference, the speaker that continues to stand out for me is a poet named David Whyte.  David opened the conference on Thursday night with a beautiful reading of his poems clearly written from someone who has spent a lot of time reflecting on what it is to be truly human and how best to live a life from a place of aliveness and connection to everyone and all that is.

One of the topics that touched many of us was David’s invitation to embrace the part of us that feels vulnerable including the part that might sometimes feel reluctant to participate fully in our life.  The idea of embracing all aspects of our self is not a new one.  Hal and Sidra Stone, Ph.D., wrote a book called “Embracing Ourselves”.  One of the first books of its time to introduce the notion of giving a voice to each part of ourselves, even the parts of ourselves we may judge as bad or dishonourable.

David described a time when he had to give a talk in front of 600 people and found himself not wanting to go ahead with this talk.  After making the space to hear all aspects of himself he realised that he had inside of him a 7-year-old self who was balking at the idea of being so visible.  Once he had a chance to connect with this younger aspect of himself and let him have a voice he found it easier to go ahead with his planned event.   To understand that there may be a part of us who is reluctant or a fearful participant to some aspect of our life is not an invitation to necessarily think that these parts need to be fixed or changed in some ways.  Moreover, the invitation is to honour, embrace and respect all of ourselves and in so doing embrace our humanity and the humanity in others.

So, this month I invite you to connect with a part of you that you don’t like (or judge) within yourself.  It may be a part that is blocking you from showing up and expressing yourself fully.  Feel into this part of yourself and see if it does in fact feel like a younger part of you.  Notice what feelings are arising. Notice how the energy feels.  Repressed energy feels thick and dense but as we feel our feelings the constriction often dissipates allowing our energy to move more freely.

You may want to get a pen and paper and dialogue with this part of you like you would if you were writing he or she a letter.  Be gentle and patient with yourself if you find that you have a hard time befriending some aspect and still prefer to push it away.  This exercise can take a bit of practice.  See if you can welcome whatever is arising and allow any insights and wisdom to unfold naturally.

Have a great month everyone,

Much love,

Vivianne

Hello Everyone,

We are deep into the heart of spring, a time of planting, seedling and blossoming.  If you are sensitive to the change of seasons you might have felt your energy shift, these past few weeks, from a more inward, reflective movement to an awareness of increased energy and enthusiasm to move forward on some of your most favoured plans and projects.

But what to put your attention on?    More than ever the choices before us can be astounding and, at times overwhelming.  Our minds tend to be logical and linear but not necessarily imaginative.  Our minds have been usually trained to ignore or override our feelings.   They might have their own to do list which makes sense in some ways but has nothing to do with nourishing us or helping us to create a life that feels good.  However, there is another way to make a choice and that is from our feelings, or our hearts guidance.  If we take the time to tune into our heart’s compass we might be able to hear the whispers from our soul nudging us to go here, do this, move this way and focus here.

The good news is that this small quiet but insistent voice is inside you.  You don’t have to necessarily ask anyone’s advice to hear it although sharing with others can sometimes be helpful.  However, what is needed more than anything is space.  It is taking the time and space to slow down our normal mental chatter in order to listen in a much deeper way to the guidance that may be arising, or what is calling us.

Oprah calls this quiet still voice her True North.  Lissa Rankin, MD. (author of the Fear Cure) calls it her Inner Pilot Light.  You might simply wish to call it intuition.

Regardless of its name, you know when you are listening because when you make a choice that is in alignment with your heart’s guidance it feels good, you feel connected to your body, you feel on track and above all you feel like you.

Like everything else trusting our inner guidance system and intuition takes practice.  It also requires feeling our feelings.  Focusing on the heart’s intelligence (see www.heartmath.com)  on a regular basis can assist us in feeling and connecting  more easily and consistently with the more truest and most honest part of ourselves.

Have a good month everyone,

Much love,

Vivianne

Hello Everyone,

Last Spring, I travelled to Toronto to take part in a Moving to Heal workshop with Debbie Rosas, founder of Nia Dance Movement.   As many of you know, I am certified as a White Belt Nia Teacher and have practised and studied Nia teacher routines for years.  Although I do not hold formal Nia classes, I have included Nia inspired movement and practices in the women’s groups I have held in the past.

Dance is definitely one of my passions.  I truly love everything about dance and many kinds of movement art forms.  I was drawn to Nia, however, for not necessarily the obvious reasons.  Yes, I love to move to music and desired to find a body movement art form that I could learn, practise and teach, but I was drawn to it mostly because I recognized that it was also a way to heal.

I have studied and worked a lot with trauma and know what it feels likes to hold trauma in the body.   Following a car accident, the signs of any kind of trauma were not so evident as my body appeared to heal easily.  But years later I found some symptoms were showing up.   As I dug a little deeper, I realised that I was holding some unprocessed emotions around this accident.   I used Tapping to connect to any limiting beliefs (e.g. this can only get worse) and release some of the negative charge that had built up.   As I started to feel better, I recognised that navigating this experience was an opportunity to embody more of more of myself and in the process understand trauma and how we might best integrate traumatic experiences into our lives.

When I saw that Debbie had created a program called Moving to Heal I knew I needed to be a part of it.  In many ways, I was already moving to heal in my life.  Daily I would listen to my body, how it wanted to moved, where it wanted to move to, how it wanted to exercise or simply rest.   I spent many months truly listening and became excited at uncovering and discovering “My Body’s Way” of being in the world.

Even without injuries or accidents, many of us do not move in ways that feel most natural to us.  Our cultural conditioning does not necessarily encourage authentic movement.    Alice Miller in her book “The Body Never Lies”  explores how many socially accepted practices can cause havoc in the body-mind connection.  In Gabor Mate’s book, ”When the Body Says No”  Gabor says “when we have been prevented from saying no, the body says it for us.”

Fortunately, our world is changing and we are waking up to the fact that the old ways of doing things are not working any more.   With burn out, stress related diseases rampant, corporations are offering yoga, meditation and movement classes during lunchtime.  Similarly, teachers have found that children learn better and are less distracted with regular physical activity.

Spring is a perfect time to listen to how your body might want to move. We all have habitual ways to move or exercise.   Some of these ways may be working for you, however, others might feel mindless, robotic or just not you anymore. Listening to what our bodies might want is a practise, especially if we have ignored its signals for a long time.  However, if we do listen what we might hear is our body telling us all kinds of things, including how to cultivate more aliveness, vibrancy and ease in our everyday lives.

At some level, some might say that there is no right or wrong way to move but to use Nia terminology maybe there is a way to move which is your “Body’s  Way”.  Especially feel into movements that are pleasurable and create a sense of dynamic ease in the body, mind and spirit.

This spring I invite you to take the time to feel, breath and dialogue with your own body’s intelligence.  You might want to put on some music that touches and inspires you and allow your body to move freely without judgement.  See what arises and how you feel.  If you notice some stuck or frozen places try softening and leaning in as if you were comforting a hurt child.  Sometimes we have learnt to stiffen or brace ourselves against the world creating a discomfort in the body-mind.  Accept any thoughts and feelings without judgement, and with lots of compassion for whatever arises.

Be patient and gentle with yourself, and let your body lead for a while.  You might be surprised where it will take you.  I offer one –on-one, Moving to Heal sessions at the Harmony Health Center where I can assist individuals in their self-healing journey.

Have a great month everyone,

Much love,

Vivianne

Despite the recent snowfall, have you noticed the signs of spring in your gardens and at every street corner.  I have heard the birds chirping in the trees, little shoots peaking their heads up through the snow and wet grounds.  The squirrels are frolicking on the fences ready to come out to play.   What I have also been aware of, however, is that in order to truly allow the beauty of spring to shine fully, there is a lot of cleaning up that might still have to be done!  There are some dead leaves left over from the fall.  Some broken branches from the winter winds need to be collected and cleared away.  Pathways swept and repaired.

As with any transition from one season to another, there is a letting go along with a rebirthing process that takes place.  These are part of the natural cycles of nature and of life.

Spring cleaning our homes at this time of year is a ritual that many partake in. Some for religious reasons, others because it just feels like the natural thing to do.  We feel inspired to make everything cleaner and brighter, as we let in the fresh air and more light into our lives.

Emotionally and energetically we might also find ourselves in the process of sorting out and letting go.  It is a great time to embrace, accept and release old grievances, forgiving ourselves and others for things that cannot be changed.  Forgiveness can be a tool that oftentimes we forget.  We think we are blaming others while sometimes not even noticing the extent to which we blame ourselves.

I invite you to take a moment to write down any events from the past that still hold a lot of energy for you.  Events that your mind and emotional body return to time and time again.  See if there is anyone to forgive around those events.  Acceptance that we did the best we can and others too can release the hold our mind has on these events.  In so doing we free up ourselves to feel what’s there without judgement or needing to fix or change anything that happened.

Being joyful is part of our natural state of being.  The more we make peace with our past, the easier it becomes to live in the present moment and appreciate those experiences that bring us joy.  The spring time is full of opportunities to sense the aliveness and potential in every moment.  Letting go of what no longer serves is a great way to support ourselves in truly appreciating the moment….and the beauty of springtime as it emerges.

Have a great month everyone!

As always your comments are always welcome and if I can support you in this process please let me know!!

Much love,

Vivianne

Welcome to the holiday season and the beginning of winter.  In nature winter is a time of rest, a time of hibernation.  And yet with the festivities of Christmas and Hanukah around the corner, we are also being drawn out into shopping, the busyness of preparations and attending family and community gatherings.  So how do we reconcile these two very different energies.  One of the ways is to take time to connect with yourself and honour your own knowingness about what may be true for you this holiday season.  There is a way to enjoy the family and friends you choose to be surrounded with and also take time to nourish and replenish yourself.

One of the easiest ways to connect to yourself is to just take a moment to slow down, connect with your breath and relax into your body and your heart.  From this place consider some of the ways you can take care of yourself and wellbeing so you have more ease and joy during this time.

Happy holidays everyone and look forward to connecting with you in the New Year.

As always, much love,

Vivianne

This morning I looked out into my garden as the recent snowfall has melted, revealing that some of the vestiges of fall are still around.   The trees that provide such beauty and shade in the spring, summer months have mostly lost their leaves.  I have watched them for many years now shedding their leaves each year with such elegance and grace.  Although I am aware of the sadness I feel when it comes to saying goodbye to the leaves, I am equally amazed to observe how much beauty remains in the images of their strong naked branches.  It’s as if I can see the essence of these trees so much more clearly without their leaves getting in the way.  When they are in full bloom they all come together in an impressive canopy beneath the sky.  Without the leaves I can better see their strength, their character.  I appreciate their rootedness as they bore their way deep into the earth and the immense power they exude as they reach ever more upwards towards the sky.  I find myself content that they get a chance to rest.   Knowing that they need to renew and nourish themselves too.

Amidst all the nakedness of my garden, in the corner of my eye, I see one small tree with all its leaves.  Seemingly facing happily towards the sun, this tree has found a way to keep shining brightly and be the last one to go without all the larger trees hiding its sunlight.  I smile to myself as I glance at my list of things I have planned to let go of this fall.  Some have already left my home while others are on their way out.  An old china set, some books and clothes, ready to be taken to charities and finding new homes.  Parts of an old computer on its way to being recycled.

As we get ready to enter the festive season and celebrate the end of one year and the beginning of another, we might want to take a moment to feel into what has been let go of already and where we are still shedding.  Some of these may be material things, some may be old ways of thinking or behaviours that no longer serve.  I realise that eventually that little tree will lose its leaves and another kind of beauty will be revealed.  I learn many things from nature, maybe this one resonates with you too.

As always, much love,

Vivianne

Welcome to my February musing….the month of love!!

‘Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”.  Rumi

I used to think that love was something we had to get, acquire, hold on to, search for.  I used to think that love was something we needed to deserve. I used to think that love was something to be learnt and taught.  However, what I have come to believe is that love is something we are.  It is part of our natural essence.  Like the flowers bloom, the trees provide shade, the rain nourishes our lands and the sun shines, I believe we are also meant to experience  love.  When we tap into this truth of ourselves there comes a natural desire, to want to communicate better, create loving experiences, foster loving and connected relationships.

So what prevents us from living fully into and expressing this part of ourselves/? What stops us from  showing up, from forgiving, from staying present, resisting the urge to reject, attack or retreat or withdraw our love.

Well if you are at least a little bit interested in the answer to these questions, I invite you this month to meditate or self-enquire on the topic of love.

Find a quiet space and breathe into your heart centre with some in and out breaths.   Gently ask some questions,for example: .What is love to you?  How do you love?  What might have you learnt about love along the way that may not feel true for you now?  When does your heart open and when does it shut down?  If there are moments that you wish to run or hide from love what does that feel like in the body.  Remember to be gentle with yourself.  This is a practice that can take a moment or much time to evolve.  Make it your own.  Can you feel into the wisdom of Rumi’ message and embrace even one little block to love?

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Did anyone ask you whether you made any new year’s resolutions this year? Did you start the new year with increased vigor and commitment to complete some projects be it personal or professional. All these are great and are a necessary part of a life well lived. However, when we only focus on “to do” lists we sometimes forget that it is important to consider how we are feeling or being as we engage in our everyday activities.For example, if having a sense of aliveness or joy in our lives is important then, activities that might contribute to that feeling might be important to engage in, not only the things we have to do or need to do to keep ourselves and our families afloat.I have noticed in my own life that the more I prioritise my health, happiness and sense of being fully alive, the easier all my projects get done. Even when I was in graduate school with a pile of papers to write and classes to attend, I found that when I prioritised a morning swim everything I had to achieve felt more fun, lighter and got accomplished much faster than if I had told myself “I don’t have time” and engaged in a more rigid and punishing road.

Exploring what contributes to our aliveness might seem like a selfish endeavour. However it is far from the truth. As Carlos Castaneda once stated, tt takes the same amount of work to consider what makes us miserable as it does to explore the path that makes us happier…. ultimately it is our choice as to which one we might want to tune into.

One word of caution. You might be tempted to put “aliveness” on your to do list and that can work in some cases I can feel very alive when I am working on a project that I love. However, it might equally show up as wanting to rest more, notice the sunsets, or appreciate the dimples that emerge as your loved ones smile that have more to do with allowing rather than doing. Feeling alive can be different for everyone and can change at different times of our lives.

For 2016, I invite you to “ask what makes you come alive and go for it”. As always your comments and questions are so very welcome.

Keep checking back for new entries every now and then.

Thank you!